EUROPEAN FAMILY THERAPY ASSOCIATION
CONNECTING FAMILY THERAPISTS AND TRAINERS
Milton Erickson
(1906-1980) MD, one of the most authoritative hypnotists of our times

Umberta Telfener: I was twenty-eight, overweight and not ready to go back to Italy, where I had to start all over from scratch. I felt miserable and scared. I had shaken hands with Erickson just once in Philadelphia, where he had given a seminar. He was in a wheelchair and looked distracted.
Before going back home I had the desire to follow one of his sessions. I left for Phoenix in Arizona and already on arrival at the airport I felt his presence: since he was colour blind and could see only purple, many people that obviously were going to meet him wore something purple: a hat, a tie, a scarf, a jacket. We would recognise each other and winkle or smile to one another. It was like being part of a secret sect and already sharing something together.
I arrived at his office with many other people and we were put in a big room seated to wait. We waited a long time, in silence, each one rehearsing his/her intent. Then finally he arrived and started talking in a low, slow and profound voice, monotonous, at a slow pace. I think we were all in trance from the beginning, also because of the high expectations. He talked for a long time and rapidly disappeared. We remained all together before leaving and talked to each other. It was amazing: each of us felt sure to have received an answer to our quest and each of us had heard the message in a different way. “Sure, he told me to go back to Italy and not to be scared” I stated; “He suggested me to remain in the couple and fight more for its working out” someone else said out loud; “No, no, he disapproved of my choice of my career, he gave me a suggestion to change town and to search more”. The differences were amazing! Each of us had found an answer coherent with its quest and we seemed all satisfied. I remember thinking how the process he had induced had helped us to look inside for an answer; I wondered if also therapy – his performing art – implied the avoidance of purposeful goals and instead a disposition to play with the tune, tempo, timber and themes, so as to per-form rather than in-form.
Theo Compernolle: Inspired by Richard Van Dijk in the Netherlands, I dabbled in Erickson’s hypnotic therapy approach. I was surprised upon arriving in Philadelphia to discover that the man himself was still alive and kicking. Armed with his contact details courtesy of Jay Haley, I took the plunge and wrote him a letter, introducing myself and humbly requesting a visit: he was for me a semi-god. Honestly, I didn’t hold my breath for a positive response. But lo and behold, a warm letter arrived from his wife, Betty, extending a gracious welcome. When I mustered the courage to call and arrange a meeting, she offered me the opportunity to shadow Mr. Erickson during a working day. And when I inquired about a cheap motel in the area, she graciously invited me to stay in their own guest room! ! Imagine my astonishment when, a few weeks later, I found myself lying in the same bed where influential figures like Margaret Mead and Jay Haley had slept before. On the bedside table stood a bottle of the purple liquor « Parfait d’amour » that I had brought as a small gift, knowing that he was colorblind and had a fondness for the color purple. The excitement of spending the next day with Erickson had my mind racing like a Formula One car, leaving sleep miles away.
Umberta Telfener: Milton H. Erickson was called the “Mozart of therapy” by Gregory Bateson. I heard this once, while having lunch with Bateson and Haley. I did not know who they were referring to. I felt left out, they smiled accomplices to each other.


