EUROPEAN FAMILY THERAPY ASSOCIATION
CONNECTING FAMILY THERAPISTS AND TRAINERS
(1923-2007) Belonging to the original group of the Palo Alto School,
(1923-2007) Belonging to the original group of the Palo Alto School, he collaborated with Milton Erickson and Gregory Bateson and was part of the study group on the double bind. He is the father of “strategic therapy”, in which the therapist takes responsibility for directly influencing people.
Umberta Telfener: I met Jay at the Philadelphia Child Guidance Clinic in 1976. In those years he appeared separated from his wife and two women seemed interested in him. Lynn Hoffman and Cloe Madaness. They were both coming to PCGC for seminars and clearly courted him. I once asked him if he had ever gone to couple’s therapy before divorcing and was surprised by his distracted answer: “I don’t trust couple’s therapy”.
In Milano in 1982 or 83 it was decided I would be Haley’s translator at the Milan Center for Family Therapy. He arrived with his wife Cloe Madaness, they were sharing a seminar: the morning was Haley’s turn, the afternoon was Cloe’s. At the beginning they both presented themselves, explaining the structure of the day. When it is Cloe’s turn she started saying: “I will in the afternoon tell you how to be successful in therapy and will utilize some cases where Jay failed, that I managed.” I looked at him, asking for permission to translate what I felt was a symmetrical unrespectful statement. He nodded slightly, his eyes laughed and shaking his head in an Indian way, he seemed to say: “Let this woman win, it’s important for her ”.
Vassilis Charalambopoulos: (This story was told to me by Petros Polychronis, it concerns Haley) Haley sees an African American upper-class family of four. Father is a successful lawyer , mother doesn’t work and looks after the 2 children . The “problem” they came in with is that the older son swears at his mother angrily often and this is distressing and unacceptable for the family .
Haley apparently stays behind the two-way mirror and observes while one of his assistants is working with the family. The family spends some time talking about the problem but can not find any apparent reason for the young boy’s swearing outbursts towards his mother. At some point Haley peaks up the interconnecting phone and asks to talk to his assistant.
He instructs him to stop the session and ask the family to come back in a month’s time. Meanwhile they should just do a ritual, says Haley to his assistant.
When his assistant asks what the ritual is, Haley replies: “The father should give the boy 10 dollars every time he swears at his mum .”